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• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-11 05:53 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• I think this board should have a thread where users can post whatever random thoughts related to personal issues or life are on their mind.
• Anything that doesn't need its own thread or fit into an existing thread can go here. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-11 19:16 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• Learning to drive taught me about how to act in general.
• On the road I was being overly cautious with regards to other drivers. I was scared that I was getting in their way, or that they wouldn't see me. Pretty much I wasn't asserting myself enough. In driving, it's dangerous not to assert yourself.
• Now I've gotten more used to acting in an assertive way. "This is what I'm doing. Now it's up to the both of us to compromise. You'll make room for me. I'll make room for you."
• Not in an egocentric way. It's about not being overly meek. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-12 18:49 ID:0rIZDUzZ )
• Below's a long rant that I didn't really want to put in its own thread but wanted to write out somewhere. Impeccable timing on making this thread. \n\n I almost forgot how incredibly miserable I get when I'm freshly heartbroken. This is the most depressed I've been in a long time, and with the dogshit year I've had that's saying a lot. I'm feeling like I'll never find someone who is willing to try to build something healthy with me, like I'm doomed to keep thinking I've found "the one" just to watch them self-sabotage and nuke everything. \n\n I'm feeling sick of being the "good guy" of the situation, the one that on some really objective level didn't do something cruel to the other person or fuck something up. I'm tired of dealing with people too obscenely selfish to make any amount of reasonable, healthy compromise for a relationship. I'm feeling vaguely disgusted with myself for continuing to believe I have any ability in judging character in human beings when I keep obviously judging the person I let the closest to me so poorly. \n\n I'm struck by the feeling that I've already had and lost the person that should have been my life partner years ago, and that I'll genuinely never find someone else I have even a fraction of a chance of truly being with. \n\n It's upsetting and frustrating because even as I write this out, I know that I don't fully believe any of it. I'm just venting my angsty bs because this is the thread to do it in. I know from experience that I'm not going to wallow eternally--with enough time I'll be convinced that I learned a good lesson from this, and regain enough morale to try again with someone else. But after consecutively getting hurt very deeply again and again over the years, the inevitability of my recovery isn't something optimistic to me anymore. I have this feeling of impending doom or dread about it. It's starting to feel less like development or progress and more like the setup to more of the same fucked up cosmic punishment, like as soon as my liver finishes regrowing a crow's going to come down and eat it again. \n\n I'm sick of suffering like this. I feel like I can say this more objectively than I could at any earlier point in my life, I am deserving of a safe and healthy relationship. I don't deserve to be this miserable. And again, it upsets me to no end that the common denominator to this misery is that I seem to keep choosing the wrong kinds of people, thinking they're the right kinds. \n\n I'm too tired to keep typing bullshit. I think I'll eat junk food and watch a movie.. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-12 21:02 ID:uGgYBrWH )
• >>3
• Wish I had some kind of advice, but even from an outside perspective it seems like a really difficult situation. So I'll just say I'm sorry to hear you're going through that.
• It does sound like you're a little bit hard on yourself, though, for choosing the "wrong kinds of people". Someone's negative traits can take time to appear or become noticeable. They can sometimes be detected early on, but not always. So maybe don't be so hard on yourself.. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-16 01:09 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• Listening to Sonic soundtrack for fun and started thinking about the overall events and timeline of my life, what happened between the time when I was a child playing that game and now. All that time seems to have gone by so quickly, as if it happened in one night or was a dream. I'm just trying to "process" my life, that it is in fact the life that I lived and I am currently in the continuation of it ... Because thinking back on life from an overhead perspective makes me feel like it was someone else's life and I was just somehow thrust into their place. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-18 02:14 ID:a04C7UBQ )
• I can’t overcome this headache I’ve had for 8 hours now. Maybe I should take some Tylenol. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-21 04:23 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• I'm barely living my life. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-22 04:35 ID:Xt3knra/ )
• Continuation of >>7
• I'm starting to realize how normal it is for people to have friends, to go out and do things with them, and to be happy in general. And how different my life is from that currently.
• Of course I always knew that most people have those things, but it didn't really "sink in" until recently. I mean I had a hard time realizing just how good life can be. All of this time I had become used to being alone, being bored with nowhere to go..but that's not how life is supposed to be.
• Never really had those things in life, but hopefully I will someday soon. I can see things turning around. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-26 00:09 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• Update on >>2 \n\n In addition to what I said about driving lessons giving me confidence, I also noticed improvements from exercising. Just doing push ups every day is enough. Feeling physically strong makes the world and other people seem less intimidating.
• Also I've been watching a lot of comedy TV shows that are realistic (not sitcoms). TV shows that portray real life situations including the awkward ones. Some of the shows are actually just recordings of real life interactions. I think those shows have given me confidence too. They allowed me to realize that awkwardness is just a part of life for everyone. Despite that awkwardness, we have to be assertive and things work themselves out, situations become more comfortable naturally. These TV shows also allowed me to see that in many social situations there's nothing to worry about. If someone's in your way, just say, "Excuse me." You're not bothering them or getting in their way. They're not going to get angry at you. If you're not sure what to order at a restaurant, just ask, "What do you recommend?". You're not wasting their time or being awkward or annoying. \n\n Once you are assertive or socially relaxed even once, you'll gain confidence. You'll realize that there's no reason to be afraid and that it feels good to be comfortable around others. Then the next social interaction will be easier and there will even be incentive to be easygoing around others. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2025-12-26 01:13 ID:meWWIo6m )
• I feel existential dread and despair at the world we’re all living in. A deep feeling of hopelessness and worthlessness which I’ve rationalized through bookworm intellectualism. The more I look at the world, the more despair at it moving in directions I dislike but I’m too weak and feeble to do anything about it. I wish I had an outlet I can dump these feelings into so I’m not carrying them around like a dead weight. I just can’t think of what to do. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-01 21:02 ID:0rIZDUzZ )
• >>10
• Art's great for that. If you're good enough at it you can even get paid for venting your frustrations about the world. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-06 00:23 ID:AkV20aAA )
• I always have this feeling that I’m not good enough. If someone else puts in 10 hours of effort into something, I have to do 15. I have to work x10 harder. This obsession creeps into every aspect of life. I don’t play vidya because I don’t feel like I’m good at them. I don’t think I can say I’m into anime unless I’ve watched every major release between 1978-2008. Even hobbies have become a curse. \n\n >>11
• I’m not very artistic. I’ve thought about making gore art or collaged and distorted photos of trash and gore. I don’t know where I’d put it or how to do it. Guess it’s just an outlet for my anger. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-07 01:18 ID:OVdroJCz )
• I've developed this weird mental fear of ICE kidnapping me for being autistic someday.I know it might never happen hopefully but my brain is admittedly f'd up for allowing my mind to think such nonsense. Maybe I'm scared,i don't know,but hopefully things will get better. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-08 03:45 ID:0rIZDUzZ )
• >>13
• At the risk of worsening any of your concerns that really isn't that far off from any of the other bullshit they've been doing. I wouldn't write that off as nonsense. I'm hoping this all falls apart in the next couple years but I fear it's only going to get more absurdly extreme. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-08 17:11 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• >>12
• I'm the same way. Very much the same way. Also I find myself trying to do things that aren't even that interesting to me because I feel like I have to prove to myself that I can do them. \n\n >>14
• I don't think you should have encouraged his fears. It is true that anything can happen, but we can't go through life thinking that way. In general we should assume that things will remain normal and steady. (Only less than one hundred years ago most of Germany was complacent with killing millions of their own population. Really anything can happen because people are easily indoctrinated. Still >>13, I don't think ICE will be kidnapping any autistic people. Ever.) \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-14 18:21 ID:Sy0lDDYz )
• Thinking about how most people who died recently are divisive and how divided we are, I miss when internet drama wasn't about political "Right versus left" bullshit, and was more about some whiny guy on a forum having "dumb" tastes or something. Nowadays you have people taking shit more seriously, and most drama is usually "He voted for the bad guy" and results in wanting to start a digital civil war of sorts. \n\n Can't we just go back to just bitching about music or something instead? \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-16 13:27 ID:OVdroJCz )
• >>16
• agreed. I saw(possibly fake to stir up shit) a post somewhere where someone was saying that people who didn't vote in 2024 because both sides were bad should go fuck themselves.It's damned if you do,damned if you don't. It's honestly exhausting and makes you feel hopeless. Maybe we should turn it off,put it in a locked drawer and play retro games from here on out.It's impossible to have clarity in an online world that wishes for you to be constantly stressed and have none.
• captcha:deragh DERRAAGHH?! yeah i honestly feel that lol \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-16 16:16 ID:+RM14v8Q )
• >>17 \n\n > >(possibly fake to stir up shit)Nah these are sincere. The logic is easy to follow: at the cost of the genocide in Gaza still being the same (which is mostly why people were abstaining, Harris would drop support for Israel), the US and rest of the world would very likely be a better place than it is currently. I'm having a really hard time thinking of what Harris would have done worse in any category. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-16 18:55 ID:+RM14v8Q )
• >>18 \n\n > >Harris would drop support for IsraelWould *NOT drop, critical typo there oops \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-16 18:57 ID:OVdroJCz )
• >>18
• Honestly,same here,and while i do get the sentiment,telling someone to go fuck themselves for a decision that they made possibly out of preservation for their mental health and to keep the peace with family still isnt okay. We also have to realize that some people just state things to get attention or just because they like to watch the world burn. And honestly,with Harris,I feel like at least ICE wouldn't be terrorizing everyone and we'd be comfortable living and breathing on earth right now. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-19 21:40 ID:Dr28R5Gn )
• I wish I had some skill I was good at but I've tried a bunch of stuff and I'm not really talented at anything and for somethings I'm way too old to become good enough at them to justify trying. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-19 22:37 ID:ipLMzdUG )
• Man, I'm really having difficulties with my childhood famly. I moved back in and I'm taking these new medications, and these are the worst people to be around for this if you want someone close to you. I feel like shit. I really need to get the fuck out of here \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-19 22:44 ID:Sy0lDDYz )
• >>21
• Same, I feel very talentless, mediocre at best. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-20 19:19 ID:Q97ehqvn )
• I've been recently remembering a lot of my shortcomings more often, which results in disliking myself too much that it would always take over my thoughts. I can't work together with others now despite already being incompetent, and I wish I could do something about it since I can only continue to exist. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-20 22:48 ID:+RM14v8Q )
• >>21
• Please try to stick with something. I'm almost 40 and have been having fun learning Japanese. Do I regret not trying when I was a much younger weeb? God yes. But I'm learning now. The grind is what gets you "skill". "Talent" can be pared down to, like, Morrowind stats. A mage can grind acrobatics to be on par with a thief, but he does have to run around and jump way more than the thief ever did. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-21 00:16 ID:7BwdXhRG )
• >>25
• I just wish there was something I'm good at. I don't mean like learning a language, but a skill or something I could do. I'm too fricken old to try any sport. I'm too old to pick up most instruments and get anywhere with them. I'm too old to join the air force. I have two left feet and can't dance, have no sense of depth, can't draw human faces no matter how hard I try, and I don't have the brain for anything math or programming related. I try hard to find a hobby that I can do reasonably well enough to be happy but I can't find one. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-21 00:19 ID:+RM14v8Q )
• >>26 \n\n > >too fricken oldHow old are you? \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-21 09:03 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• >>26
• I really don't think you're too old for these things. It might be harder to learn at an older age, but it's still definitely possible. It sounds more like you're intimidated by the idea of certain hobbies, so you don't give yourself a fair chance to stick with them and grind (like >>25 said). That's my guess. Could also be something that I struggle with personally: inconsistent motivation due to depression and loneliness.
• Also have you considered hobbies that seem less intimidating (but also have room for growth and improvement) like photography and hiking? \n\n >>24
• You never know; there may be people on your team or in your life who are looking up to you, think their the one who is inferior. The way you think about yourself isn't necessarily the reality of "who you are". Knowing that might help. Also something that has helped me gain confidence in the past is light exercise. It's worth a shot.
• Another practical idea to gain confidence is to try to accomplish small, achievable goals (small projects, goals for cooking, cleaning, diet, etc.) \n\n I hope my unsolicited advice isn't received in the wrong way. I know this is a "venting" thread and not an advice thread, but I thought I would share these ideas in case they might help. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-23 21:00 ID:AiY1P1Q4 )
• I've been going to a boxing gym for a week and I really don't know how to feel about it. Its expensive compared to a regular ass gym and years of being a net dwelling NEET have made me allergic to other homo sapiens. I stick out in all the bad ways. Guess I'll quit again and move onto the next hobby to try. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-24 02:41 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• >>29
• Don't quit just because you think you stick out. If you keep to it I'm sure you'll become more comfortable there and won't feel self conscious \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-25 21:48 ID:Sy0lDDYz )
• Snowed in with family, it's not like I've been going out much before either, but after shoveling the walkway and such with them, it just ended up buried in snow again. \n\n Oh well, time to get comfy somehow. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-25 22:13 ID:OVdroJCz )
• ....debating over things is tough for me. Maybe i shouldnt even try or have an opinion at all sometimes and just keep my mouth shut before something tragic happens to me.I've just never been cut out for it. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-26 08:29 ID:Q97ehqvn )
• >>28 \n\n > > The way you think about yourself isn't necessarily the reality of "who you are".Thank you for your intent of reaching out. Even though this part could be interpreted in a lot of ways, I think it's one important thing to think about. I've since then been trying to accomplishing tasks and enjoy hobbies at least a couple of times while I continue to live. I appreciate the advice. \n\n >>29
• I'm not sure if this could be applicable to you, but I think you shouldn't care too much how you're perceived and proceed at your own pace. You don't need to blend in too much since it's natural that people have different personalities and situations. Like >>30 said, it will take some effort and time to adjust somewhere. Unfortunately I can't come up with any specific advice how. \n\n I've been in a slightly similar situation as well since lockdown restrictions were lifted years ago, especially because I've always been unusual. Effects still remain despite some adjustment which requires experience, but I pay less attention now to possible perceptions of how I prefer being private and alone. Somehow, I still get along with people by giving honest "positive" responses to their short interactions to me, with some light feeling. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-26 08:39 ID:Q97ehqvn )
• Actually, I specifically prefer being close to people who have some similarities to me such as interests. There've only been few chill (?) people I slightly got along with, and it looks like I still have no friends. Still not applicable to anyone, but I've accepted there's nothing I could do and I just enjoy other things myself at my free time. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-27 04:57 ID:f/L9pUvS )
• >>33 \n\n > >>The way you think about yourself isn't necessarily the reality of "who you are".
• >Even though this part could be interpreted in a lot of ways, I think it's one important thing to think about.Now that I'm reading this again, I realize that I should rephrase it:
• The way you think about yourself will determine how you are, for good or for bad. The "believe in yourself" slogan gets thrown around a lot and has lost its meaning, but I think it's true.
• If someone believes that he has positive traits and potential, then he will embody that. And the reverse if he thinks negatively of himself. \n\n This concept has a lot of applications. It can be used for some kind of goal you have. It can be used for self esteem and value. It can be used for feeling comfortable in a social situation. \n\n
• Anonymous Counsellor (2026-01-27 21:32 ID:Sy0lDDYz )
• Trying to be more social a bit this year, but it's a bit exhausting to be on voice calls and stuff like that, and occasionally being active on others' twitch streams. \n\n
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